“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” (Ephesians 5:25)
A mother needs all the love and care she can get from her family so she will be better covered after she delivers her baby. They can give her the 3Ss:
A new mother needs support in all aspects — not just financially, spiritually, emotionally, but physical aide as well. Mothers who are breastfeeding require assistance. She may not prepare the milk formula to feed her baby but she still needs help even if she doesn’t ask. She will greatly appreciate it when her partner takes the time to wake up in the wee hours of the morning and bring the baby to her for nursing. It will also create the bonding time of the father and the baby.
Remind your relatives and friends to bring gifts or small tokens for your older child when they come for a visit. Make sure that not all the attention goes to the baby. Have a special and private space for your other child and see to it that he has things of his own that he doesn’t have to share with others, especially with the baby.
Husbands, expect that sexual intercourse may have to be put on hold for a while after the baby arrives. The emotions and moods of your partner will be different such that sometimes even her body will not be responsive to your advances. This is not a rejection but an adaptation to the abrupt decrease in maternal hormones that occur after delivery. However, you can still get close and cuddle once in a while. Make her feel your warmth and concern through small gestures of appreciation. It’s a good time to rekindle your dating practices of giving her fresh flowers when you arrive home and writing little love notes that you can tuck under her pillow. Bring her breakfast in bed with a small thank you card for being the best mother in the world and being your loving wife and partner.
Excerpt from "Your Newborn Is a Blessing (A Guide to Your Baby's Health from Conception to Birth)."
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